Wishing is a Dilemma
Process (4 minutes read)
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Cakes with lighted candles in
front of you, songs being sang, lights and fans off, standing in front of your
friends. This situation seems familiar to you? You must have guessed it
correct, yes, what I described earlier is a scene of a birthday celebration.
Your birthday celebration.
About a month ago three months ago, I
celebrated my birthday together with my friends at Padi House Sri Petaling. As
usual, we had lighted candles on the cakes and birthday song sang by everyone.
It is traditional to make wishes before you blow the candle so I made one. I
was finding what to wish, only to decide that I wish to be able to pass the
cadet programme this year (now that I've said it out, will it not come true?). I figure that that was the thing I want the most at
the moment (besides all the superficial and vain stuff). After a while, I gave
some thought on the ‘wishing’ process. What are wishes? Why do people wish?
People wish for something
that is not possible to attain at the moment or something that is impossible to
attain at all. That is why people wish. We wish for things that are out of our
reach, out of our grasp because it is unlikely for us to have it. I wish to
become a millionaire. I wish for a successful career. I wish to be respected. I
wish to have a Victoria’s Secret model as my girlfriend. The fact that it is
unlikely for us to achieve at the moment that we had to wish for it, only to
hope that it will magically happen.
I wish to become a
millionaire but I never save my money. I wish for a successful career but I
never bother to improve myself. I wish to be respected but I go around and mock
everyone. I wish to have a Victoria’s Secret model as my girlfriend but I do
not go outside and approach people because I am scared. Things like this made
me have to wish for something so that it will be presented to me by someone
(maybe God?) like raindrops falling from the sky.
No, it will not happen.
Wishing for something and yet you do not work for it equals to zero progress.
It is a relatively simple equation. Action = Progress. You want something? Work
for it. You want to be a millionaire? Start reading business and finance books,
work your way up. You want to have a successful career? Build networks. You
want to be respected? Volunteer for the society. You want to have a Victoria’s
Secret model as your girlfriend? Be outspoken, courageous and ask her out.
(FYI, I’m just making an example)
What I am trying to say is
that one should not just wish for something and not do anything to make the
wish happen. There is no such thing as being successful someone without working
for it. It takes real hard work and perseverance to achieve something. Wishing
for something to happen is real shithole. It makes us complacent, lazy and
stupid. It makes us feel that we deserved it and when we do not; we whine and
complain to the person around us, spreading the negativity.
The next time you are
required to make a wish, don’t make one. Rather, build a goal for yourself.
Make it achievable; and most important of all, work hard for it! Cause the
moment you achieved something you wish for, it is the best feeling in the
world.
Now, don’t you agree that
wishing is a dilemma process? Should you wish or should you not?
